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Overcorrecting
Overcorrecting is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, during a Counselling relationship, it can be seen as a way to test boundaries and their stability, try challenging and scary things as a way of exposure in a safe space, or even perhaps investigate our own limitations and the things we don’t want, to discover what stability and the right path is. Sometimes you have to get things wrong and over do it, to have a benchmark for returning to where you need to be.
Centering the Client through Transparency
It takes time and effort to feel comfortable to do this work with someone you don’t know. The relationship we establish as Client and Counsellor is called the Therapeutic Alliance and builds over time. With every session we spend together, our familiarity, trust, rapport and comfort strengthens and grows, allowing you to explore more personal and sometimes uncomfortable or difficult topics.
Trust Issues
So how do we re-establish the ability to trust when it has been lost and damaged repeatedly over a long period of time, from as far back as infancy, for example? If having a sense of danger and lack all the time is all a person has ever known, if they have never experienced a sense of safety and ease, how do they rebuild that inability from the inside out?
…being able to trust is not something that stays constant and strong throughout your life. It is something that needs to be reflected on, reassessed, developed and maintained.
Past, Present and Future - The Self and the Brain
The evolutionary aspect of our brain is something that when understood, even on a very basic level, can reveal why we sometimes think, feel and behave the way we do.
One aspect of this is how we relate to and process time. It can seem very complicated and existential, taking us down a rabbit hole of wondering that can feel overwhelming and confusing, but it doesn’t have to be that complex.