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Transference and Counter-transference
Barriers to the client/Counsellor alliance can emerge at any time and this is a healthy and natural consequence of any kind of therapy. These barriers are opportunities that present proverbial forks in the road, needing examination, analysis and decision-making to choose a direction. Transference and Counter-transference are such common barriers.
Weaponisation: What is it?
Weaponisation is a verb and attached to that behaviour is an intention. I think key to emotional and mental health is understanding the difference between when a behaviour is happening subconsciously and when it is being enacted deliberately and to what end. A subconscious act of weaponisation might be an oversight, it could also be a result of miscommunication or misinterpretation. But when something is being knowingly clouded, obscured, manipulated or expressed incompletely, with the end goal being a desired outcome that benefits one party over an other, this can be harmful. We should all be looking in the mirror as often as possible, careful you don’t fall in!
Overcorrecting
Overcorrecting is not necessarily a bad thing. In fact, during a Counselling relationship, it can be seen as a way to test boundaries and their stability, try challenging and scary things as a way of exposure in a safe space, or even perhaps investigate our own limitations and the things we don’t want, to discover what stability and the right path is. Sometimes you have to get things wrong and over do it, to have a benchmark for returning to where you need to be.
Centering the Client through Transparency
It takes time and effort to feel comfortable to do this work with someone you don’t know. The relationship we establish as Client and Counsellor is called the Therapeutic Alliance and builds over time. With every session we spend together, our familiarity, trust, rapport and comfort strengthens and grows, allowing you to explore more personal and sometimes uncomfortable or difficult topics.