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Transference and Counter-transference
Barriers to the client/Counsellor alliance can emerge at any time and this is a healthy and natural consequence of any kind of therapy. These barriers are opportunities that present proverbial forks in the road, needing examination, analysis and decision-making to choose a direction. Transference and Counter-transference are such common barriers.
Toxic Positivity Vs Chronic Pessimism
The reality is that life isn’t supposed to be wonderful all the time. That is not only impossible, it’s boring and exhausting. While we hope that adversity, challenges and difficulties are manageable and short lived, we should remind ourselves that problems are a part of life and will come our way now and then. More accurately, there are always things in our life that are imperfect, uncomfortable, undesirable and sometimes even catastrophic.
Fair Weather Friends and Trauma Fetishisers
Relationships are hard. We are all human and have complex thoughts and feelings. We all have our own subjective lived experiences and making connections with others isn’t something that happens automatically. It is something we learn to do from an early age, and this development can be impacted by intergenerational patterns and sometimes trauma that teaches us unhealthy relationship habits.
The more we know about ourselves, and the people we are in relationship with, the more we hold space for each other’s authenticity, the more we encourage accountability and grace, the stronger boundaries we have and the more we are willing to change, the better our relationships will be.