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Are you even ready for Counselling?
The things we do day to day are necessary and some of them are choices. Some of them aren’t. But we do make conscious decisions about how we do everything. How we move through the world in a way that feels comfortable, bearable and even pleasurable. To keep us sane and well, or at least functional.
Healing a wound needs attention
What I do know for sure though, is that wounds don’t heal without attention. Even when the body is healing a minor scratch, or a much deeper injury through cellular repair, something is propelling that process and it isn’t stagnation. The energy the body needs to heal a physical issue requires ingredients like nutrition, the removal of and protection from infection, medicinal manipulation through chemical intake or application, something to help mend the problem.
It is the same with an emotional or psychological injury. Wounds that occur to our psyche, personality, development, attachment, our learning and connection need attention. They don’t heal by themselves and they don’t automatically resolve through disinterest and denial.
Lived Experience
I could list the adverse experiences that I have had in my 50 years of life that others might want to access to gain insight and guidance. Especially if you are going through something similar and need support, talking to a Counsellor who not only has experience in the field, has studied and trained extensively and is part of an ever growing mental and emotional wellbeing profession, but has also been through similar experiences and made it to the other side in one piece, can feel protective and secure. It builds trust and confidence when the Counsellor you are talking to about your issues, has been through it themselves.
Transference and Counter-transference
Barriers to the client/Counsellor alliance can emerge at any time and this is a healthy and natural consequence of any kind of therapy. These barriers are opportunities that present proverbial forks in the road, needing examination, analysis and decision-making to choose a direction. Transference and Counter-transference are such common barriers.