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Lived Experience
I could list the adverse experiences that I have had in my 50 years of life that others might want to access to gain insight and guidance. Especially if you are going through something similar and need support, talking to a Counsellor who not only has experience in the field, has studied and trained extensively and is part of an ever growing mental and emotional wellbeing profession, but has also been through similar experiences and made it to the other side in one piece, can feel protective and secure. It builds trust and confidence when the Counsellor you are talking to about your issues, has been through it themselves.
Toxic Positivity Vs Chronic Pessimism
The reality is that life isn’t supposed to be wonderful all the time. That is not only impossible, it’s boring and exhausting. While we hope that adversity, challenges and difficulties are manageable and short lived, we should remind ourselves that problems are a part of life and will come our way now and then. More accurately, there are always things in our life that are imperfect, uncomfortable, undesirable and sometimes even catastrophic.
Fair Weather Friends and Trauma Fetishisers
Relationships are hard. We are all human and have complex thoughts and feelings. We all have our own subjective lived experiences and making connections with others isn’t something that happens automatically. It is something we learn to do from an early age, and this development can be impacted by intergenerational patterns and sometimes trauma that teaches us unhealthy relationship habits.
The more we know about ourselves, and the people we are in relationship with, the more we hold space for each other’s authenticity, the more we encourage accountability and grace, the stronger boundaries we have and the more we are willing to change, the better our relationships will be.
Grief and Bereavement
“We live in a world that does not value life. On the whole we are surrounded by or are witness to atrocity and carnage that should be the exception not the rule. This is not the cruelty and inevitability of our nature, or is it? Are we no better than the ferocity of the natural world? The opposite certainly exists too. Our capacity to love, create, grow, build and nurture. Where is the balance? Can’t we have the latter without the former? Isn’t the inevitability of death and destruction by natural causes enough to compel us not to create it through deliberate destruction? Isn’t the beauty enough to strive for or is that what we fight for when it is threatened?”